Marc and Angel Chernoff have spent a lot of time helping their clients build healthy and lasting relationships.
They have come up with answers to the question we all ask ourselves: what is needed to create and nurture a healthy relationship?
They invented a list of what not to do to avoid perverting a relationship. Here are some of their recommendations.
Do not wait for love to solve your problems
If you are afraid of being alone, a relationship can not fill this void by itself.
You must first understand the source of this problem, this fear of loneliness.
Once you've done it and you've gone beyond that, you can do it in a healthy way with another person.
"At this time, somewhere in the world, there is someone who is happy to have you. "
Never forget that your emptiness, your fears and your problems belong only to you. They will contaminate your relationship if you do not solve it before.
Face and value your problems before you pair, for the sake of your personal balance and the person you love.
Do not stick to the person you love
When we start a relationship, it is perfectly normal to want to spend a lot of time with the person we love.
But, little by little, we must leave more space to our partner and dispose of ours.
We must not forget that we have our own life to manage and that we must reserve time to be alone with ourselves. It's fundamental to having healthy relationships.